I know this is a hot topic, but I’m going to address this as objectively as possible (meaning that I’ll, as I often do, write a post that pleases no one). We all have our personal beliefs about the world, people, the universe, and what happens before and after we die. There are many mysteries about reality that we will likely never be able to...
Read MoreLife is difficult, no doubt. You need to work to get the food, water, shelter, and other resources you need to survive, and then you need to avoid things that can hurt you, find people who can help you, and find things in life that help you realize your potential and fulfill you. While doing that, there are other people in this world with both...
Read MoreThere are many psychology practices and philosophies that revolve around the idea of “being good enough”—i.e., the fact that you don’t have to work yourself to death and please everyone all the time to be worthy of love. On the other side of the “not good enough” spectrum, there are people at the top of their fields who strive to continue to...
Read MoreWhen I explain how the meaning of life is growth, it is one of those moments where it’s both too obvious and simple to want to believe but also too vague and non-specific to be satisfying. Unfortunately, no matter how much scientific evidence you have, people will always fall back on their emotions about whether something feels
Read MoreYou have probably heard these clichés before: These statements are reflections of how your perception influences your reality. At first, someone who is pessimistic or facing a problem won’t be very receptive to these kinds of points; it’s like telling someone to calm down—they probably won’t want to hear that, and they’re not going to be...
Read MoreWhile this blog is intentionally focused on helping you figure out your life for yourself, many people do want hints at to what they should care about in life: goals to have, things to focus on or prioritize, or just simply what to do. While everyone’s life goals will be different, there is, fortunately, a short list of things that everyone in...
Read MoreEveryone wants to grow into their ideal future state. Regardless of whether you want to be an athlete, a musician, or a family man, you want to get the best outcome out of as little effort as possible. (Unfortunately, outcomes are often correlated with effort) But how do you actually do that? How do you optimize your growth and development to...
Read MoreOne of the hardest parts of life is letting go of your past. They call it “baggage” for a reason: it weighs you down and holds you back. Yes, there are things that definitely do legitimately restrict your behavior: owning a home, holding a job, having a spouse, having children, and similar responsibilities and obligations. But that’s not what...
Read MoreI wrote a blog post a few years ago about standing out vs. fitting in that was pretty popular. It seems like people are always trying to optimize the degree to which they stand out in a good way but fit in where sticking out would be negative. For example, no one would walk around wearing underwear on their head if they wanted to be accepted by...
Read MoreA popular position to take in life is that of the “realist”—meaning you try to set real expectations and not get your hopes up because they might get crushed. It is a middle ground between optimism and pessimism, where in the former you try to see life events in as positive as a light as possible and the latter in a negative light. The pessimist...
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